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What Does Mission Really Look Like? (part 3)

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Okay, so here’s the first post….

Aaaand the second one….

I closed out the previous post with a question: How can each of us make the transition into what I call “agenda-free” mission? Once we recognize how much unnecessary (and often damaging) baggage we have attached to mission by our institutional thinking, how do we change our thinking to participate in the mission of Christ in a more organic way, without worrying about what we might have to gain from it?

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Agenda-Free Evangelism

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That title might sound like a bit of an oxymoron to some. 🙂 After all…doesn’t all evangelism have an agenda?

Maybe. But lemme splain. 🙂

Have you ever had a friend that got involved in multi-level marketing (MLM), like Amway for example, and after awhile every time you talked to that person, you felt like they saw you as a marketing prospect? If not controlled, it can affect the very fabric of the relationship, because you feel like that friend has an ulterior motive–an agenda for being friends with you. And if that person really gets sold on their product and scheme, if you don’t bite after awhile, you stop hearing from that person. You aren’t seen as a productive prospect anymore.

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A Response to Some Honest Questions

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Categories: "Love Is...", faith, love

Take this for what it is…but I felt like bringing a discussion in the comments up here to the front page.

Last night, someone identified only as “oj700” commented on this post I actually wrote one year ago tomorrow, entitled “Love…Does Not Seek Its Own.” I want to publish his/her remarks exactly as written:

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Feed My Sheep

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Categories: food for thought, love, Meanderings (look it up)

I hate when I do this…something someone said on one of the blogs I read that helped to spark this post, but I let it sit too long while writing another series, and now I can’t remember who to link to. 🙂 So if you see something of your own content here, let me know.

For several years I’ve been pondering the dialogue Jesus had with Peter when they had breakfast together after the resurrection (John 21). Three times Jesus asked him, “Do you love Me?” And three times Peter answered, “You know that I love you.” There’s a lot of powerful meaning in the Greek words that are used, and many of you have probably heard teaching about it. But what Jesus said after each round of “Do you love Me”s has always puzzled me until recently:

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Love…Never Fails

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The last day in February=the final post in the “Love Is…” series from 1 Cor. 13. Links to the previous posts below.

This phrase, “love never fails”, is one of the most well known in 1 Cor. 13, and so often quoted that the meaning can easily be lost in its catch-phrase status.

Taken simply for how it reads, it sounds like love is invincible, that love always wins, always triumphs, and always meets its objectives. “Love conquers all”. But what does that look like?

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Love…thinketh no evil

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(Continuing the “Love Is…” series–previous links are below.)

This phrase in 1 Cor. 13:5 reads “[love] thinketh no evil” in the KJV, but other translations read things like “keeps no record of wrongs”, “does not take into account a wrong suffered”, and a few other variations.

Looking at the Strong’s definition for “thinketh” or “take into account”, it reads, “to take an inventory”. So I think probably the closest translation to the original meaning of the Greek phrase comes from the Young’s literal translation: “[love] doth not impute evil.” This reminds me of other passages of Scripture that tell us that God does not “impute” our sins against us. In other words, He does not store them up as some sort of grudge.

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Love…Does Not Seek Its Own

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(Continuing my series of ponderings on “Love Is…” from 1 Cor. 13:4-5…)

For now, I’m skipping over some of the more obvious ones like “Love is not arrogant.” Don’t be arrogant, okay? 🙂

The phrase, “Love does not seek its own” is definitely worth turning over in our minds and hearts, because the nature of love is to give, not to take. Love looks outward toward others, while sin looks inward to the satisfying of self, often at the expense of others.

It is this phrase, “Love does not seek its own”, that makes me surmise that the opposite of love is not necessarily hate. Many of us kind of see it that way, sort of as a spectrum, with love on one end and hate on the other, and we tend to use that spectrum to measure our feelings for someone else. But thinking about it that way reduces love to a mere emotion. And while emotions accompany love, there is much more about love that is a choice, not a feeling. Hatred isn’t good, but the truth is, we do not have to hate someone in order not to love them.

So what if we do away with the “love spectrum” in terms of positive and negative feelings, and think about this as either the presence or absence of love? If love is present in the way we live, we seek the good of others, not merely of ourselves; if love is absent, we seek only our own pleasure.

Because of the outward-looking, giving nature of love…I believe the opposite of love is not hate. I believe the opposite of love is selfishness.

There is another nuance of meaning here we shouldn’t miss. In the phrase, “Love does not seek its own”, the Greek word for seek carries the meaning of plotting or conspiring. It carries even a connotation of sneakiness. In this sense, “seeking one’s own” can take the form of subtly conspiring or manipulating people and things to get something one wants.

I think this is important to know, because often we can cloak hidden agendas under a disguise of seeking the good of someone else. Put another way…we might do good to someone else, but only if there is something in it for us. It might be something we’ve worked into the deal that benefits us directly…or it could even be something as subtle as doing good for someone because it makes us feel good to be appreciated or thanked or whatever. (Of course, the cover is blown if the person doesn’t show the expected appreciation.) Either way, it’s kind of a mercenary approach to love, isn’t it? It’s love with strings attached; it’s love that seeks its own. (Read: it isn’t love at all.) It looks like love, but the motivation is still the satisfying of self. We didn’t really have that person’s best interests at heart, but our own interests.

Does that mean that all love is about self-denial? Not at all; there is actually a great sense of fulfillment in seeking the good of others above ourselves. It’s just that sometimes–quite often, in fact–seeking someone else’s best interest does mean doing so at our own expense. It means that when we truly love someone, our own fulfillment becomes secondary; we’ll do what’s best for that person, even if it hurts us personally. The self-serving counterfeit of love won’t go that far, and it gets exposed when love starts to cost us something.

In pondering this, I get the picture of Jesus agonizing in the Garden of Gethsemane just before He went to the cross. His prayer–“Father, if You are willing, let this cup pass from Me”–tells us that in the pressure of that moment, Jesus had the opportunity to choose to “seek His own”. He was counting the cost of love in that moment–the cost of laying down His life. But in the next statement, you see the choice: “Nevertheless, not My will, but Yours.” In that moment, He put the will of His Father, and the good of us all, above His own.

This is what love does.

I mentioned earlier that there is great fulfillment in seeking the good of others above ourselves. In Tim Keller’s book The Reason for God, Keller paints what I think is a beautiful word-picture of the Trinity. Rather than a static hierarchy, he pictures the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit in a continual life-giving interaction of love, esteem, and preference for one another, almost like a dance. You can see it in Scripture that all three Persons of the Godhead point toward the others in deference and praise and esteem–the Father loves the Son, the Son reveals the Father, the Spirit testifies of the Son, and so on. This makes much sense to me, because if God is love, He cannot be static; love must be a constant outward flow, and that is met in the mutual love the Persons of the Trinity have for one another. From this standpoint, God did not create man in His image because He “needed” someone to love. That would have been static and self-serving. Rather, He created us to invite us into the joyful dance of love that was already in existence. This, I believe, is why there is fulfillment when we seek the good of others. When we do, we are participating in the outflow of love; we are joining the Divine dance, as it were, by focusing outward rather than inward.

When man sinned, he turned inward toward self, became static, and lost the dance. But a loving God would not leave us lost; rather, the Son came, sent by the Father, to redeem us, and by His act of love invited us back into the dance. And when the Son returned to the Father, the Son sent the Spirit to come alongside, to teach us and remind us of the steps.

There is a saying, “Love isn’t love until you give it away.” When I remember that “love does not seek its own”, I know why this is. Just like a dance–love must be in motion. It cannot just flow to us; it must flow through us. We can’t really understand love, or really receive it, when all we see is ourselves–because receiving love comes as we give love away.

Love does not seek its own. Because love is in motion.

Anyone care to dance?

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Love Is…Kind

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Here, I continue my musings and meditations on 1 Cor. 13:4…

Sometimes I envy the Greeks. (Oops, love isn’t supposed to be envious–see farther down 1 Cor. 13. Sorry, Greek people.)

Anyway, the Greek language (in which the New Testament was written) carries so much more meaning than ours does. One Greek word sometimes can take a paragraph of English to try and describe its meaning–and even then doesn’t always do it justice. So when we translate from Greek to English, some of the deeper nuances can be lost. Add to that the fact that we English-speakers are actually losing some of the deeper sense of meaning from our own language, and even more gets lost in translation.

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Love Is…Patient

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Through the month of February in our home church, we’re focusing on 1 Corinthians 13, taking a few verses per week and really spending time with them, through things like discussion and reflective worship. As part of my own meditation process, I thought it would be good to write some thoughts down here. So periodically through the remainder of February, I’ll be posting on the topic of “Love Is…”, focusing primarily on the description of love found in 1 Cor. 13:4-6. As I do this…please bear in mind that these are things I’m processing, not “preaching”. I still fall short of this description of love in many ways. It is my prayer that in reflecting on these things, I will continue to see Christ formed in me.

LOVE IS…PATIENT

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Twenty Years Ago Today…

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…I did something that, apart from the choice to follow Jesus, has turned out to be the best decision I have ever made.

Twenty years ago today…I married my best friend.

From the very first time I saw her, at the beginning of our freshman year of college, The Wild One has captivated my attention and intrigued me. From the very first week, we talked about everything. We were going steady within two months. And three years later, we were married.

She says she fell in love with me when I made her laugh. (So okay, it wasn’t my biceps.) And ever since, I have been on an eternal quest to make her laugh again and again. Her laughter is simply addictive. And contagious.

Truth is, she makes me laugh as much as I make her laugh. And she doesn’t even have to try as hard as me. And that laughter has helped carry us through some very dark days together.

She is beautiful, she is joyful, she is full of wild, unbridled life. She is the mother of our incredible son, The Director. She is my greatest fan and my most honest critic. She has stood by me when everyone around told her not to. And she is far more than I deserve.

Her smile lights my world, and my heart still leaps when she walks into the room. She is, in every way, my soulmate.

Twenty years ago…we began an adventure together that has taken us to heights and depths, molded and shaped us, and bonded us. And I wouldn’t have missed a moment of it. And we’re not even halfway through the ride. (She tells me she is signing on for another 20 years, at least.)

Happy Anniversary, my love…my friend for life.